Have you ever been in the situation where you're really really pissed with someone...so pissed that you want to strangle them and you wish upon them a million evil things? This feeling is so strangulating that you begin to feel hatred on the world in general..snapping at everyone, finding fault with everything..
Well, the problem is that some people just really have thick skin and they can't accept any criticism, even if it comes from well-meaning friends. Their save-face defence mechanism is so strong, that they always have to come up with bloody excuses which are such obvious lies! Why?? Why do such people victimise themselves and make it out to be some cruel world out there, in which they are the eternal sufferers?? Hello, to live in Singapore alone means that your plight can't be worse than most of the people in the world beyond. Such people are plainly narrow-minded and have no heart for others. Oh yes, and they live constantly in denial and self-delusion!! Nothing can penetrate their thick skulls.
There are friends who don't really care about you as a person, but that you are someone who can keep them company...doesn't matter who, just a physical body they can drag along when they go about their pursuits. A "friend" to such people, is someone to be manipulated...taken up when needed and dropped when unwanted. Personalities don't count anymore...just the presence of not "the" but "a" person.
So why do we still have friends like these? Maybe out of guilt...they usually don't have many people who like them, so you don't wanna hurt them. Maybe you're just too nice. Maybe they just don't get it. Maybe cos you've been "friends" for so long, that it seems odd that the "friendship" is to end. Maybe cos you realise that no one's perfect, not even yourself...as much as you wanna believe it...maybe deep deep down inside, that person's not all bad...who knows?
Still, when emotions get the better of you, it's never easy to see things objectively. Maybe I'm really biased now...I don't doubt that...but right now, I need a reprieve...
Well, the problem is that some people just really have thick skin and they can't accept any criticism, even if it comes from well-meaning friends. Their save-face defence mechanism is so strong, that they always have to come up with bloody excuses which are such obvious lies! Why?? Why do such people victimise themselves and make it out to be some cruel world out there, in which they are the eternal sufferers?? Hello, to live in Singapore alone means that your plight can't be worse than most of the people in the world beyond. Such people are plainly narrow-minded and have no heart for others. Oh yes, and they live constantly in denial and self-delusion!! Nothing can penetrate their thick skulls.
There are friends who don't really care about you as a person, but that you are someone who can keep them company...doesn't matter who, just a physical body they can drag along when they go about their pursuits. A "friend" to such people, is someone to be manipulated...taken up when needed and dropped when unwanted. Personalities don't count anymore...just the presence of not "the" but "a" person.
So why do we still have friends like these? Maybe out of guilt...they usually don't have many people who like them, so you don't wanna hurt them. Maybe you're just too nice. Maybe they just don't get it. Maybe cos you've been "friends" for so long, that it seems odd that the "friendship" is to end. Maybe cos you realise that no one's perfect, not even yourself...as much as you wanna believe it...maybe deep deep down inside, that person's not all bad...who knows?
Still, when emotions get the better of you, it's never easy to see things objectively. Maybe I'm really biased now...I don't doubt that...but right now, I need a reprieve...
posted by Samantha @ 4:55 pm
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