Life...and other afflictions

The rantings and uninteresting events of my life

Saturday, May 13, 2006

Yesterday was a loooooong day...but I'm not going to complain. It was definitely a whole lot better than Thursday...I was bored to death on Thursday...so much so that I even decided to SMS the guy I met at the party and ask him to teach me and Fu Wei how to cook Spanish food. He said he was going to Poland this weekend but maybe we can meet next week and I should get my fork ready...haha...oh well, that was some amusement for a while.

Anyway, my Friday began at 4.45am...I nearly didn't wanna wake up...but I know that I often make things out to be worse than they are...and I know I'd feel good after swimming, even if I feel like shit when I have to wake up.

This time, Fu Wei didn't forget anything..yay! And as we were walking from Postplatz to the Schwimmhalle, I saw a huge banner for "Who's Afraid of Virginia Woolf?" and it said "TODAY". I told Fu Wei, "OH!!! I have to go for that! I'll go home and check if I can still get tickets online or something." This play totally spoke to me when we did it for Lit in NJC. Well, it really did take a while for me to like it, but at the end, after reading it for myself a few times, I really grew to like it. For one of our common tests, we had the question "Is hatred a form of love" or something to that effect and I really had fun answering it...I may not be a genius lit critic, but it was a very nice topic to deal with because I can identify with it to some extent.

This is my favourite part of the play, when Martha says, "I disgust me. You know, there's only been one man in my whole life who's ever made me happy. Do you know that?...George, my husband...George, who is out somewhere there in the dark, who is good to me - whom I revile, who can keep learning the games we play as quickly as I can change them. Who can make me happy and I do not wish to be happy. Yes, I do wish to be happy. George and Martha: Sad, sad, sad...Whom I will not forgive for having come to rest; for having seen me and having said: yes, this will do; who has made the hideous, the hurting, the insulting mistake of loving me and must be punished for it. George and Martha: Sad, sad, sad...Some day, hah! Some night, some stupid, liquor-ridden night, I will go too far and I'll either break the man's back or I'll push him off for good which is what I deserve."

It's the verbalisation of what many of us do unconsciously. We hate ourselves for whatever reason...and when someone loves us, the us that we detest, we treat him/her badly and do all sorts of stupid things...to test if they really love us, because it's so hard to believe anyone would make the mistake of loving what we deem worthless. Or another way of seeing it, anyone who is stupid enough to fall in love with the unloveable deserves to suffer. I guess it's cynicism...and it results in self-sabotage. It's such a vicious cycle. How do we break out of it? It all starts with our poor self-image...which of course, can be caused by a myriad of factors. But I think this is a good explanation why we tend to long for those we can't have and despise those who try to love us. I'm not saying this happens to everyone...it doesn't. But to those who find themselves in destructive relationship after destructive relationship, this might be why.

So, this is WHY I had to go for the play. I needed to see how they'd interpret this. I didn't quite like the movie version with Liz Taylor and Richard Burton...but maybe it's just me. Also, I've never been to the Schauspielhaus in Dresden, so I was interested in taking a look. Will get back to this topic later.

Swimming was tiring. I just can't get my breaststroke right...I have no idea why...and then I tried Backstroke...which was somehow different...I think I swam a fair bit faster than usual, cos I was DEAD tired after only 2 laps. Yes...after 2 laps. It definitely felt shorter than usual..but I ended up taking longer breaks...so not exactly very productive or what lah...but I felt for the first time in a long time, what it's like to push yourself. When your heart beats a whole lot faster and your breathing speeds up. Oh well, it's back to practicing again next week. I was worrying that I'd get muscle aches the day after though...I prefer the German term: "Muskelkater". It's tough when you have 2 sport sessions in a day, especially when you don't do any sport during the rest of the week...but I simply can't fit it into my schedule otherwise.

Went home and dunno what I did, but time passed pretty quickly. Ah yeah...I bought my ticket for the play online and tried to figure out when to collect the ticket and how to get to Postplatz (all the construction work being done in Dresden means that you have to change trams/buses quite often).

Then I went for my Contemporary Indian Cinema seminar...we watched bits of an older film with Amitabh Bachchan: "Deewar"...and we talked about national cinemas and about the interesting "Lebenslauf" of Amitbabh Bachchan...about how the characters he played changed from "angry young man" to "wise old man"...and how he has amazing charisma and has saved some of the brands he endorses in India...and he was BBC's film star of the millenium. Amazing eh? You should see the list of his filmography.

Then, I rushed home, ate 2 Schokobrötchen and then rushed to Postplatz to collect my tickets so that I didn't have to worry about it later. Then I went for tennis...was a bit early, but not too bad. We started not long after. This time we didn't have the horrible running and other crappy warm up activities...we just hit the ball to each other in pairs and went around the 2 courts. I think it went way better this week. But, we had to play with a stupid ball machine...and the coach, Florian, set it to be "unpredictable"...and I hated it because while I may not be an expert, I can see from a person's movement and stuff where the ball is probably going to come...but with a machine, I can't tell...and since I am not a fast runner, I need that "hint". Blah...so I missed a lot of the balls. But then we got to play with the coach too, after a couple more rounds with the ball machine. We got divided into two groups of 4. It was the girls and the guys plus Katharin. Haha...anyway, it got way better after we got to play with the coach. However, since he was standing where I was technically suppose to hit the ball, he nearly got hit quite a few times. Fortunately, he's not that tall and he can move very fast. And sometimes, he forgot and gave me a ball to my backhand (right hander's forehand)...and it took a while, but I finally got used to switching to the backhand grip even without being really prepared for it.

Then we had this pretty fun but difficult game. I won't bother to explain too much...the coach hits the ball over to the opposing service line and members of the team hit it back to the one member of the team who stands on the same side as the coach and he/she will have to hit it back within the service box directly facing him/her. When it was my turn, it was tougher..firstly, I can't control my forehand very well...I somehow tend to hit everything to the baseline, even if I am supposed to aim for the service line. But since all the other members of my team are right-handed, I ended up hitting backhand shots most of the time...even though we haven't technically learnt it.

At the end of it, the coach was like "Oh, next week we will begin with the backhand, but there are apparently some experts here who can already play with the backhand and even better than with the forehand at that!" OOPS...haha. Well, aiming for the service line with a backhand is easier cos my movements are kinda more limited. I don't know if I can aim for the baseline with my backhand.

After spraying water on the court (we play on clay courts), I got clay all over me, so I had to wash it off...then I went to Prohlis with Fu Wei to collect my photos. It cost over 22 euros! :( They are so dumb...they had this special offer a while ago, but their system hadn't been updated, so I got shown 11 something euros...but had to pay the 22 euros... ugh. But what to do? Just have to pay right? Then we practically ran through KaufMarkt...I bought some stuff, but not much...then Fu Wei bought Milchreis and I bought a hazelnut Magnum...and we ate it at the bus stop. I might be wrong but some guy was staring at us from his car...cos the traffic light took a pretty long time. I usually don't notice if pple stare or anything, but this guy was being quite...obvious. Maybe it was my top...it said 'So many boys, so little time". Haha...nah...I doubt he could read it.

Then, rushed home, changed...had to wear my boots cos I have no nice shoes. I finally understand why models get paid so much. They definitely should have to be compensated for all that torture. I cannot wear heels to save my life. Ugh...and I didn't even have to walk THAT much...only to the bus stop and to the theatre and so. I really need to find a job where I can wear comfortable shoes.

Ok, it was funny cos most of the pple there were over 50...and mostly couples. But I am shameless...so I didn't feel bad. At least I wasn't dressed in t-shirt and shorts like most of the younger lot who were there. Ok, so what did I think of the play? Well, I remembered quite a few of the lines...especially the essential bits. So it was interesting to hear them in German. I loved Martha's dress...the one she wore to the party. It's a pretty white dress with crazy dots. But I think there was way more nudity in this play than called for in the stage directions...there was one scene where Honey stripped all the way down to her panties...and danced around like a maniac. I'm beginning to get used to seeing naked people, but it was just so weird cos I really didn't think she had to be naked for this part. It didn't make much sense...unless it's supposed to be symbolic of her being vulnerable or something like that. But still, it's not necessary. And there was a lot of water used in the play..interesting...but a bit wasted lah. Overall though, I liked the play...though Martha said my favourite lines a little too softly. It was worth the money...and the theatre is actually quite nice on the inside. Fu Wei and I might go and watch "Kabale und Liebe" by Friedrich Schiller. Sounds quite interesting actually. I hope we do go.

Anyway, I got back at around 10.30pm...and was super hungry. Thankfully, Fu Wei had cooked soup, so I gladly drank 2 bowls and ate most of the meat. Then, I went to sleep at around midnight...but woke up at 5.30 this morning...aiyoh...I wanted to sleep longer leh...

Well, it's lunchtime now...have to work on my translation and homework after that.

Thursday, May 11, 2006

I'm at uni and freaking bored. I hate it when I have little pockets of time to kill when I forget to bring along a book to read or whatever. I thought I'd be very busy trying to look for the sociolinguistic articles online...but turns out that I found stiff prerry quickly. The only question now is if I'll be able to open them at home, cos they're from journals that my uni pays for and well, since I'm technically out of the zone, I can't access them directly..so I saved them on the com here and resent them to myself. They'd better open man! If not, I'll have to come back here next week with a memory stick, which I did wanna bring, but forgot. :(

Mind you, it's not that I have nothing to do...it's just that all the stuff I could be doing is at home...like my translations and oh yeah, I hate reading articles on the computer screen, so I wouldn't read them here either. And I'd have my books and other stuff. Blah.

On the bright side, the weather's still gorgeous! Hope it stays this way tomorrow. I don't have to have good weather every day, but I have tennis on Friday and that's super important. I'd really hate having to miss a session or anything. I don't think I'd enjoy a theory lesson...

I can't wait to go home, start reading the articles or do my translation...then watch TV, have dinner and go to sleep. Oh, and maybe watch 'The Wedding Planner'. Not a big J.Lo fan, but I guess this is one of her not so bad films. Maid in Manhattan was really crappy.

Ok, think I'll go get a drink before the next class.

Sunday, May 07, 2006













Some photos we took today, right next to our hostel. I love spring! Yeah, we took 138 photos in total...haha!
Well, well...the party went better than I expected in general. There were good and bad things. My cookies were too hard, but they tasted ok. We brought ice cream, which was a big hit, especially with the girls. Haha. There was lots of food! We found out that Thomas' parents own a bakery...so there was lots of cake and bread. And I mean A LOT! There was also tons of beer and tons of wine, sekt and prosecco (or however you spell that). Tons of everything, basically. There was salad and chilli con carne and pasta too. Fabulous! Everyone was saying that the chilli was spicy, but erm, it wasn't in the least bit for me, and I know that my tolerance has gone down a lot since coming here.

Anyway, Fu Wei and I got there at 8.30 or so. There were already people there, including Thomas' sister. We didn't really talk to anyone at first...only Thomas, cos like duh, he's the only one I actually know..even if I don't know him THAT well. We looked around the apartment a bit. I'd like to live in something like that. The rooms are big and spacious...and so's the bathroom. The kitchen's also perfect for 2 people I think. But it got a bit squeezy with all the people who were beginning to stream in. Fu Wei and I sat on the balcony and talked a bit...and ate a lot...Thomas came occasionally to check if we were ok and stuff. It was a bit weird lah...so we ate more stuff. I ate ice cream, some cocktail sticks (grape, cheese, banana), 2 kinds of cake, drank lots of juice and 2 types of wine etc. After spending a looong looong time talking among ourselves, we decided to walk around a bit, you know, change location..haha...

Anyway, we were in the kitchen when I saw something that looked like fried carrot cake...but I couldn't remember what it was called: "chai tow kway". So I stood there for a long long time...and just couldn't recall the name! Then this guy came over and said it was a tortilla. A Spanish one...and erm, I guess if you are like me, you'd automatically think of the Mexican flour or corn tortillas...but this one is made of eggs and potato. The guy explained to us what it was...and how you cook it...and that was the beginning of conversation with third parties that night. His friend came along and explained to us too...it's amazing how food can be such a conversation starter. But the friend could only speak English...not German, so we switched to English...Fu Wei found it a little tough, but it was ok...they told us where they came from (Spain) and what they're doing in Dresden: internships under LEONARDO, an internship exchange programme or something. They're only here for 3 months and they told us about how they found a place to stay, which was quite interesting. They went around the Mensa asking people...aiyoh...I'd die if I had to do that. But they managed to find something they liked and that suited their purpose.

They drew a map to show us where they're from...haven't heard of it..it's in Andalucia (that I've heard of), but Die Another Day was shot there...you know, the famous Halle Berry in that orange bikini scene...gorgeous man! So the guy that made the tortilla is called Sebastian and his friend's called Carlos. It was very funny because Fu Wei kept asking Carlos to repeat his name. And she said, "Isn't that the name of a handsome guy?" Haha...then Sebastian said she was thinking of another word, but she couldn't remember it anyway...then she wrote "Carro" which apparently means cart..haha. We had a good laugh and at that moment, I knew that my decision to ask Fu Wei along was a very very very good one. Then we ended up "splitting up" in the middle, cos we were in the kitchen and would've been blocking the way to the balcony if we'd continued standing in a big group. So I talked to Carlos and Fu Wei talked to Sebastian. I can't even really remember what we talked about...I think about Singapore...he told me his impression of Singapore...and about how he doesn't know any German..about the supervisor at the Frauenhofer Institute and stuff like that...just random stuff you tell a stranger I guess. He asked what we did on weekends...I told him I didn't do anything cos I didn't know many people and it's stupid to hang around at night alone. He said, "If you give me your phone number, maybe we can all go out during the weekends or something". And he said I was very responsible or something like that. Then this girl came to join us...and oh, he was telling us about the places to visit in Spain...then his friend called and he had to go "rescue" him.

So Fu Wei and I talked to Kathrin, who's from Leipzig...and then her friend came over and so did Andreas, Thomas' housemate. Then we went to check what time the tram was leaving...and ended up in Andreas' room...which was playing really really loud music. We met Nico, Carlos and Sebastian's friend...he's very very funny..he reminds me a little of Ralf Schmitz. Erm, I guess none of you know him...but it's ok lah :) He's a German comedian. There was a bit of dancing...I wasn't the one doing it though...haha...it was the other pple in the room. Carlos didn't believe I could get drunk on one beer...I wouldn't have believed it either, but since last year, it's been like that. Haha..I don't get drunk lah, but I do get tipsy and my concentration and sense of balance totally goes. Anyway, he got me a beer...I drank a bit...it's not too bad lah...think I am getting used to it. But Fu Wei helped me to drink the most of it. Oh, the funny thing was, we tried to leave earlier, but it didn't work...like we kena held back when we were trying to say bye to everyone...Carlos and Sebastian AND Nico kept asking us why we were leaving so early...it was about 1 am plus by then...and I had to keep screaming "She has to talk to her parents at 8 tomorrow morning" over the loud music. I'm surprised I don't already have a sore throat. Then Carlos said, "You are a very nice girl." or something to that effect. Erm..ok. Oh..he told us to try Gazpacho earlier on in the night. He says it's really good. But you need a blender for it. Haha...and he says, if you don't like garlic, you won't like Spanish food. Sebastian got Fu Wei's number and fortunately he checked with me..cos he was missing a digit at the end. So after dilly-dallying for one entire hour, we finally managed to leave...but not before Nico started this crazy air kissing dance with Fu Wei...haha...it was funny. And Carlos said, "I hope to hear news from you", to which I wanted to reply: "What kind of news?" But then it would've been making fun of him...not that I think he would've gotten the joke anyway...so I decided not to be so evil. I said bye to Thomas and I tell you, it is damn awkward when people plan to do things you don't expect...erm...please don't read this wrongly hor...I shook his hand and he leaned over for one of those casual hugs which I'd usually give my friends (usually female)...except I wasn't expecting it and I had no idea where to suddenly put my hands. It was really very weird, but funny too.

So all in all, it was a pretty interesting night. And it did kinda prove that the outsiders do get along with each other more easily than trying to mix with the in-group. In this case, the in-group comprises the Vogtland people who've known Thomas and Andreas for years...and the outsiders being Kathrin from Leipzig, the Spaniards and me and Fu Wei. Interesting...